Monthly Archives: January 2014

Sex, Lies, & Standards

I’ve been sitting here listening to Jesus I want you by Chanté Moore… like over and over for about a hour. The first time I heard her sing it was when they shot the video for R&B DIVAS LA at church. I think, maybe she sang it before that, anywho, it literally brought tears to my eyes – but when anyone sings who is filled with the Holy Spirit, it always does. For the past few days it’s been on my heart to write about virtue, but I didn’t know what angle God wanted me to come from, so it’s been on pause. My friend Allison just hit me with one of my faves from Chanté that we use to kill as kids & the melody reminded me of Jesus I want you so I turned it on and it’s been on repeat.

I’ve heard it sung by her a few times, but listening to the words just now really hit me! “I was looking for a friend, looking for a man, I was longing for flesh and bones…”. Men and women both look for the love in the wrong places. We long for the touch and the attention from someone in the natural but only God can fill that void in the spiritual. We go out searching for a mate, but we’re so broken that we keep attracting the wrong people and then we wonder why it doesn’t work out. Sidebar, ladies, Proverbs 18:22 says “He that finds a wife” not “She that go seeketh and searcheth for a man”… I digress, I don’t think that you have to be 100% whole when you find your mate or when your mate finds you, I think when you meet that person God will use them to fill in the cracks and crevasses that are left, but you cannot by any means be a broken mess. No one wants to deal with that, no one wants to be a tub of super glue.

Also, you cannot let your standards be lowered for anyone. I know that all we see is ratch these days, but we are sons & daughters of the King and we are royalty – joint heirs with Christ. Therefore, women we have to set the bar high and we have to be so hidden in Christ that a man has to go through Him to find us. And men you need to be so anchored in Christ that you find it to be your duty to protect her honor. One of my friend’s told me that her husband felt it was his duty to protect her virginity. That means he wasn’t saying “yeah I respect that” because that always comes with a but and dude trying to get some butt.

Respecting that and honoring you are two very different things. Respecting it means “I’ll put up with it as long as I can, if you don’t eventually put out then I’m on to the next” but honoring you means that he is on one accord with you and he feels it is his job to protect your virtue and both his and your purity – whether you’re both virgins or have rededicated your bodies to Christ. It is just as important to him as it is to you that you both abide by God’s word – “flee from fornication”…

I don’t understand why men think that when I say I’m abstaining from sex until marriage that it’s a joke or some ploy to make them chase me. No sir, God shut that down, and He was very serious about it. Did I like it, no, but I’m doing my best everyday to stay obedient to Him and to His word. The world will have you believe that casual sex is alright, it isn’t – that’s a lie from the pit of hell. It causes unnecessary repercussions once you become someone’s husband or wife. A temporary moment of pleasure can lead to a lifetime of pain and I’m so cool on that. I get it, men love the chase, well chase God and see if He lets you chase me to the altar.

Stop lyin’!

I’ve had someone stop me in the mall before and begin to “read” me & then ask for $5 to continue. I politely told them to hold all that noise, I’m cool, no thanks. At the time I was a Christian, but I wasn’t living or walking with Christ like I am now. Even still, I never really liked the idea of tarot cards, psychics, and clairvoyants – hence me telling her scuurrrrr (that’s a car screeching sound) I’m straight. It’s always been something that was creepy. Whooooodie whooooo, I rep Sag all day, but I do not live my life in accordance to what my horoscope says. I don’t even check that anymore, really, I find a little of myself in every sign. But as I get to know God more and more everyday I understand that that was the Holy Spirit on the inside of me telling them to halt whenever I was approached.

Do I believe they have a gift, somewhat, God tells me peoples’ business all the time, but I use it to pray for that person. I think that if they really tapped into who God is and what He had carved out for their life that they could use that gift for the powers of good and not evil. But what do I know – lé shrug. There is a such thing as a gift of prophecy, but people in the world get someone prophesying to them and someone using psychic ability confused. The difference between a prophet and a psychic is that a prophet gets a word from God and a psychic or clairvoyant get their info from the devil.  When someone prophesy’s over you they are confirming something God has already told you. They are speaking a true word into your life. They aren’t bringing any new information, they aren’t “reading” your life, they aren’t asking for $5 to continue. Everything that is told to you through prophecy can backed up by the bible and can be found in scripture. It is a prophets duty to expose sin, not to embarrass or make people feel ashamed, but to promote growth. Prophesy is about life while being a spiritist is death.

Leviticus 20:27 says “A man or woman who is a medium or spiritist (clairvoyant) among you must be put to death. You are to stone them; their blood will be on their own hands.” Ummmm ok see, I’m sorry, but really? Stone!? God just doesn’t go around stoning all willy nilly. If He wants to stone people that is proof that there is something wrong! Before He sent Jesus to save us, He just got rid of what was evil, therefore, this is evil!! I’ve read and I’ve researched before writing this, and I see so many blogs where people try to act like there is nothing wrong with going to a psychic, there are even “churches” who use them! Say what!? Hold my mule and clutch the pearls. That is a lie from the enemy! He is a liar and a deceiver and he wants to trick you into thinking that it’s harmless and it isn’t. He’ll trick you by having someone know all about you, tell you it’s a word from God when it’s really the devil trying to sink his hooks in you. He’ll give you the riches of this world but your soul will feel empty. You’ll have everything you ever dreamed, but wonder why you still don’t feel complete. You are committing spiritual suicide and wonder why you feel lonely. He’s a dirty low down creep who will entice you with then leave you hanging by your neck. He doesn’t have your best interest at heart. If you were going through a hard time, guess what, he knew too, and he sends his followers, his demons wrapped in flesh to “speak a word to you”. He’ll mask it like it’s from God, but it isn’t. The things that God promises you don’t come with compromise and losing of oneself. It doesn’t come with the pain of bending the person you are to become something that you aren’t. The promises of God will come with struggle, and maybe a little heartache, but they do not come with changing who you are as a person and falling out of line with the word of God. The heartache we feel is only temporary and it is because God had something better.

1 John 4 says “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. By this you know the Spirit of God: every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God”. The scripture says they have gone out into this world!! And do you know what that means?? It means they are building churches, they are “preaching” and they are speaking lies straight from the enemy into people’s lives and they need to stop lying!! So yeah, the next time someone speaks a word to you, test the spirit, is it from God or the devil, and if you go to psychics, or rely on a word that does not come from The Lord, I beg you to stop. God is not pleased and in the end you will be held accountable for your actions.

Heaven or Hell, you choose…

PS – The devil doesn’t look like this. He looks just like you are I parading around this earth like he’s one of us. Don’t get tricked, read your bible, know God’s word…